In my last post, I vowed to be non-reactive, and instead thoughtfully respond to the people and situations in my life. That has definitely proven to be easier said than done, and will continue to be a work in progress.
However, it has already paid off in many ways. My children are more respectful, and even massaged my feet and put toothpaste on my toothbrush for me (instead of throwing it behind the toilet, I’ve been buying a lot of toothbrushes lately).
All areas of my life are already changing for the better. It’s amazing how well you can relate to people when you let them actually finish their sentences.
The only problem I’ve had is that I’ve resorted to comfort food again when starting to stress. For example, when I had to spend a rather lengthy amount of time getting the toothpaste out of the toddler’s hair. She is still in her kids aquafresh loving stage. Still not sure how half the tube ended up on the back of her head. But the important fact is that I did not overreact, just quietly went to work on the mess. Then hid what toothpaste we had left.
I’ve done better with letting the kids fight their own battles, until it physically turned into a kicking, screaming fight. Then I stepped in. (I knew all those parenting books that my mom recommended would come in handy someday). And my house is spotless because when I wasn’t in the refrigerator I was cleaning it, trying to tune the arguing out.
So my goal for today is to put it all together, to be kind, loving and responsive, not reactive, but without diving headfirst into a hot fudge sundae or pizza.